It’s not the first time I’ve heard it… it was probably the fourth or fifth… but recently someone told me she was envious of my perfect life. The truth is – I’m not perfect. I’m not a perfect Mom.
“Your kids always look great, you look beautiful, and I don’t get how you manage to blog with two kids at home! I wish I had it together like you.” Compliments like this make me uncomfortable because I am far from having it all together.
I’m a stressed out anxious mess of a Mom who eats candy for dinner and cries when her kids aren’t looking.
I worry way too much and sometimes care too little.
My house is never completely clean, fast food is what I feed my toddler when I’m feeling lazy, and I only wash my hair twice a week.
I take 100 pictures before I choose one to post online, I let my daughter watch too much tv, and I have a short temper.
I ignored signs of postpartum depression.
I talk too much when I’m nervous and always reveal more than I should. Especially when I’m worried the person I’m chatting with is losing interest in our conversation.
When we are going to have company, I’m really good at hiding the clutter and cleaning quickly. Whoever said you can’t polish a turd has never met me.
I’m insecure, never exercise, and have horrible eating habits.
Even if my girls are dressed in matching adorable outfits and my hair is curled just right – I am not perfect. I’m not even close to perfect. I’m just really good at hiding the truth.
So despite how it looks on the outside, I’m not a perfect Mom. I’m just like everyone else.
LOVE! We maybe are the same person. It’s hard to look past the perfection of an Instagram pic and think about the real person behind it. The realness is the best part. Thanks for sharing!!
Last night I let my three-year-old eat a PB&J uncrustable with apple juice while sitting in the recline watching Mickey Mouse. Was it because I was running around doing things? Nope. I sat on the couch across from him and dicked around on my phone. It’s life.
Having a perfect Mom is NOT fun! If your Mom is perfect, you will be a stressed out chils and grow into a down right crazy adult. You are doing a wonderful job, you girls giggles are proof! As some lovely lads I knew once said, “All you need is love”
I think the same thing every time someone says we are doing a great job with the kids. I just want to be like “dude we’re barely holding it together here!”
Girls none of us are perfect thankfully we don’t have to be perfect we just have to be the best us we can be! Keep on keeping on girlfriend!
This made me tear up today. Thank you for posting and reminding us that it’s alllllll O! K!
Loved this!! Great, honest post. I am definitely one to be the hardest on myself. I expect perfection and it never comes through. It’s great to feel like that’s more of a norm than the rarity. Thanks for sharing!
NEEDED this today! I have been having a real hard time dealing with PPD and transitioning to being a parent of two!
You don’t work out?! OK now I don’t like you! Lol. You look great 🙂 But seriously good post; love your honesty. We’re all just doing the best we can and we all have days of feeling like we messed up more then not but I have to remind myself to extend grace to myself too.
You just made a ton of moms feel ‘normal’