How Will I Love Two Daughters?

How will I love two daughters at the same time? Sometimes I worry that I won’t have enough love to go around for both of my children.

A mother’s love is like no other – unconditional, forgiving, patient, and genuine. Even when I am angry because she has intentionally dumped a box of cereal on the floor and wiped her boogies on the wall, I tell her I love her while I sitting her in Time Out.

I’m always amazed at how every day I seem to love my daughter just a little bit more every day.

It’s like just when I think my heart is going to burst warm gushiness for her everywhere, it grows again. How will I love two children the same amount? Sometimes I worry that I won’t have enough love to go around for both of my daughters.

How is it possible to love two children just as passionately without showing favoritism? I fear the day that one says she thinks the other is my favorite. She will tell me that I don’t care about her as much as her sister. I know it will happen – it happens in every family – I’ve said the words to my own Mother as a child and she now tells me it broke her heart. She hated knowing her daughter suddenly felt less important. 

As a grown woman, I know that I was silly to think my Mom could ever love one child more than the other. She loves all of her children equally – so much that she would do anything for us.

You’ll be her first role model, her first friend, her first love. You are her Mama and she is your whole wide world. 

Loving two daughters equally is possible. A mother’s love is never-ending and has no limits – it runs deep through her heart and soul.

Of course I will feel guilty when we are first home together from the hospital. I will be exclusively breastfeeding Baby A and if I remember correctly, big sister Annabelle lived on my chest as a newborn. I’ve read quite a few articles about making sure to give the big sister lots of time with Mama, even if it means wearing the baby in a wrap.

Library dates, park trips, and cuddle sessions before bed will be routine and necessary. I know that Annabelle is going to be obsessed with her baby sister because she talks about her constantly, but I never want her to worry she isn’t still the apple of my eye.

Mommy and Me Pajamas by Sleepyheads Pajamas

When Sleepyheads Pajamas sent the girls in our house coordinating mermaid pajamas, Annabelle was THRILLED.  Not only did her baby doll Reese have a new dress, but there was also a onesie in the box for Baby Sister. Annabelle likes to set aside outfits for her baby sister when she gets dressed in the morning, and now she officially has something that matches and they can both wear at the same time.

In the end, I know my heart will quadruple in size once I have both my girls in my arms.

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