It’s important for new Moms to find a community of Moms to talk to after having a baby. This is my experience with making friends as a new Mom.
I’m not going to lie… I almost wussed out of going to a Mommy and Me meet-up this morning for the 4th week in a row. Annabelle turned all sorts of purple and screamed her little head off when I put her in her car seat. At first I thought, “Aw, she doesn’t want to go! Looks like we should wait until next week.” But then I kicked myself in the butt for making excuses, took her out of the car seat to soothe her, and then strapped her back in to go.
Why am so I scared of making friends as a new Mom?
It’s crazy to think that I have been afraid of making new friends considering how I’ve always been a social person. But if I am being honest, the real reason I’ve waited 7 weeks to go to a Mommy and Me class is because I have been scared. Scared to take the baby out. Scared to have my little A, who tends to scream for no reason, be around all these put together moms and probably calm babies. Scared of being the new kid in a class. Scared. Scared. Scared.
NEWS FLASH: I am glad I put my big girl pants on and went.
I met around 20 incredible Moms, their adorable babies, and one amazing lactation consultant. Some of these Moms were on their 2nd or 3rd child, others were on their first – the ages of the babies ranged from 2 weeks to 18 months – and everyone was friendly and willing to share advice. We chatted for two hours about everything from breastfeeding, to sleep patterns, to formula, to the best nursing bras around.
We were able to breastfeed our little ones without being judged and more than one baby had a diaper blow out that needed to be change. The best part about the class: embracing I am not the only Momma who struggles with being a Momma.
I have found quite the network of Moms on Instagram, but it isn’t the same as being able to talk to a new Mom face to face. I love seeing everyone’s baby in real life and how different each and every baby was, no matter their gender or age. There were babies the same age that did different things – some were sitting in Mom’s lap, others rolling on the rug, and a few were running around. I discovered that this totally normal and it’s okay if your little one doesn’t do the same things as another little one the same age.
Making Friends as a New Mom is NOT HARD!
After leaving, I felt empowered and confident as a New Mom. I also now see how truly important it is to have a network of women going through the same thing as you – and how it is okay to ask for help. It is also good to know that I will now never feel alone when something seems tough or unmanageable. Annabelle slept almost the whole time (which is totally uncharacteristic of her), so I was able to relax. It was nice to listen to the other Moms talk, and even interject when I could add to the conversation. I had an awesome.
Have you ever been to a Mommy and Me group? If not, would you ever join one and why/why not?