Parent separation anxiety is a REAL thing. On Friday Brandon and I are leaving for our first adults only trip without Annabelle. To say that I am anxious about leaving our little one would be an understatement.
I am downright sick to my stomach about saying, “Goodbye.” I’m so nervous that when we had a health scare with Annabelle, Brandon suggested we cancel our trip and I was more than okay with it.
My Thoughts on Parent Separation Anxiety
I know it is healthy for parents to getaway from their children every once in awhile, but going away isn’t easy. I have only ever been away from her for one night at a time – on three occasions – and this will be THREE nights away on the other side of the country. It takes FIVE hours (if we have a direct flight) to get home in case of an emergency… and that doesn’t include time it takes to get to and from the airport. What if something bad happens?! WHAT IF SHE CRIES FOR ME AND I AM NOT THERE?!
Answer: She will survive.
The truth is – she is in GREAT hands. The woman who raised Brandon will be taking care of her and I trust her with every ounce of my body. She is amazing with Annabelle, so why should I worry?
I worry because separation anxiety is normal. If I didn’t want to be around my child, then there would lie a real problem.
I read somewhere that separation is an important part of attachment. When parents allow their children to be cared for by others, it builds a sense of trust in the child for their community and world.
Sadly, with the knowledge of everything that can go wrong in this world, it is hard for me to say goodbye. As a Mother I want to be able to protect my child, but I must remind myself that my presence will not alter the future. Parents have no control over what may or may not happen.
In the end, adult time is necessary for sanity and happiness.
Since our marriage is the foundation our family is built upon, it’s important we tend to that relationship. Spending time alone, without interruption, will strengthen our bond as husband and wife. We can say bad words and act irresponsibly without our little leader ordering us around. We can talk about love, life, or inappropriate things that won’t be repeated by our Princess. We can devote all of our attention to one another – and our moments will be unbroken by parenthood.