There are countless controversial parenting topics out there in this world. From breastfeeding to vaccinations, everyone has an opinion for what’s right and wrong. I KNOW there are controversial things I do as a parent and I’d be a liar if I said I’ve never judged another Mom. At the end of the day, all that matters is my children are safe, healthy, happy, and loved.
Take my Baby to a Bar
Breweries and vineyards are becoming more kid-friendly everyday. However bringing a baby to a drinking establishment still remains a controversial parenting decision. There are family bathrooms, play areas, and often events scheduled around children in mind. Overall, is there anything really wrong with a Mom or Dad wearing a baby while they drink a glass of wine? As long as I’m not drinking and driving, it can’t be that bad to bring a baby to a bar.
Parenthood is all about survival. If you have a child that refuses to sleep for weeks on end, you do what you have to do to survive. Both of my daughters were terrible sleepers so many nights they slept between us. I’m not saying co-sleeping is the most safe option for a baby/toddler who won’t sleep. But if you’re going on 3 hours of sleep a night for the sixth day in a row and the only place your baby will sleep is with you, so be it.
Breastfeeding in Public
As a Mom who once had to nurse her baby on a dirty bathroom floor, I’m all about breastfeeding in public. There is no reason anyone should have to eat next to a toilet. I nursed both of my daughters whenever they were hungry, regardless of my location. Don’t get me wrong though, I always covered myself while nursing for there’s something to be said about baring a naked breast in a restaurant.
Check out a non controversial parenting post: A Mom’s Struggle with Adapting to the Next Stage of Childhood
Allow a Pacifier
There’s no shame in the pacifier game in my motherhood guide book. A pacifier can provide comfort when Mom and Dad can not, especially for my breastfed babies. Both of my daughters had pacifiers until they were two and a half. Ailey actually had a pacifier until she was well over three years old. We know prolonged use can effect their teeth, but our daughters are just fine.
Feed My Kids Fast Food
Fast food is never my first choice when it comes to feeding my kids, but desperate times call for desperate measures. If we are taking a road trip or have a busy days of extracurricular activities, Chik-fil-A is what’s for dinner.
Hold My Daughter Back from Kindergarten
I didn’t know there was anything wrong with holding my daughter back from Kindergarten, but some parents disapprove of my choice. Annabelle qualified for Kindergarten at age four, but my husband and I decided she should stay in preschool another year. There is something to be said about rushing a child into school if they’re not emotionally ready.
There is no such thing as a perfect parent, so just be a real one.
There isn’t any reason a Mom should feel pressured by society to change her parenting ways if she isn’t breaking any laws. Trust your instincts, teach your children to be kind, and do whatever you can to keep them safe.
All is this!! Just read your blog post. Although, my kids would not take a pacifier, but I tried like hell to make them! Breweries and vineyards are where it’s at now!!! And my kids love McDonald’s- chicken nuggets for the win. And kindergarten…my son is being held back, and I feel zero guilt. You’re a great mama ❤️
Heather L. says
Kindergarten at four?? Wow that seems so young for that. I would have held her back also. Also, Macdonalds and Chick-Fil-A for the win. Ohh and co-sleeping, yes, we love it.
This is such an awesome post! I feel like more and more drinking establishments are in fact family friendly and there is no harm in taking your kids to places such as these that have play areas and parks. Like you said, as long as you’re not drinking and driving there really isn’t any harm!
cute & little
Yes! Many places like breweries and wineries know if they are kid friendly more people will come
Ashley Stephenson says
Love this post! I am pregnant with my first and some of these are just ridiculous that people judge you for doing them! I love Chickfila so my kid will too! And mama needs her wine!
Ashley Rollins says
As someone who doesn’t have kids, I can’t say a THING about how you parent! However, I think we should shame mothers less about their choices and respect that they are doing what is BEST for THEIR child, even if it is “controversial.”
I’ve done some of these things and more! I love your reminder to trust your instincts. And at the end of the day, your child’s character is what matters! Plus knowing that they’re loved. You do what you gotta do on the other things!
Yes yes yes so right!
Kristen M says
Love everything about this. Great post. Thank you!
I like that you parent in your own way. Who cares what society thinks? They’re not the ones raising your children – you are. So I’m glad you do things in a “controversial” way!
Tara Fuller says
from what i’ve seen, people take the opportunity to take issue with anything! you do what’s best for you and your family!
Such a great post! I’m not a parent yet but feel like no one should judge people on raising their own kids. Every parents differently, have different beliefs and methods.
Caitlin Houston says
Thank you so much for sharing! It’s so important everyone just supports one another instead of judging!