Yesterday was actually a pretty great day… until about 7pm… when my mom called with some bad news. My great uncle was just diagnosed with cancer of the esophagus and they’ve only given him a few days. Yah a FEW DAYS.
I was raised to think of my parent’s aunts and uncles as my own, and my Uncle P was more like a grandfather growing up than a great uncle. My dad was named after him and he even looks more like him than his own father – they’ve always had a strong bond to one another. However, over the past years my dad grew apart from his side of the family, and as a result I did too. I reconnected with my Great Aunt and Uncle when Mr. Bear and I got engaged. They could not come to FL for our wedding, but promised to be at our celebration this spring in CT. When I saw my Aunt C this past September, we planned to meet over Christmas break to make Irish Soda Bread, and then to come to the R’s traditional St. Patrick’s Day celebration. Now our families are going to be reunited for the wrong reasons, and I will not be able to be there. This is one of those times that I hate being so far away from home – I hate that what separates me from being home is a 17 hour drive or a $400 plane ticket (which is currently $1200).
My mom summed up how I am feeling in her fb status … “I hate when life throws you a curveball. Thinking of how lucky I am to be healthy, but dreading the upcoming sadness of yet another person I love leaving. When will we ever learn to stop and take the time to be with the people you care about?”
Sadly, this is the second family member that I will lose this year… and the first was part of my “new” family. Two of my grandparents in CT are in a home right now and Mr. Bear’s two grandpas may not be doing so well these days. I wish we could take off a few months to travel and visit both of our families in the four different states in which they reside – because honestly, you never know when someone is going to pass away. Mr. Bear says that we need to start preparing ourselves for the deaths of our loved ones who are very old, but how do you prepare yourself for death?
I am very sorry for my family who is going to lose their grandfather, father, uncle, and husband during the holiday season. Right around the time we are all supposed to gather and talk about what we are thankful for… I am thankful for him and his life – because he is the reason his children and grandchildren are alive. He made my Aunt C very happy in love for over 50 years, however I can’t imagine what she must be going through right now.
Life is precious and we must savor every single moment. During this week of Thanksgiving, please give thanks for all of your family and friends, for your good health, for the simple things that make you smile, for the air we breathe, for the land we live upon… and please say a prayer for my family during this difficult time.
I don’t know if I will be back to blogland before the Bears head to TN for Thanksgiving with my in-laws… I am pretty torn up over this event, especially since I can’t travel home to be with my family =0(