I’ll never forget when we found out Annabelle was going to be a big sister to a little sister. Both Brandon and I knew we would be in for many years of bickering over toys, clothes, attention, and hopefully not someday… boys. We are only in the second year of the siblings’ relationship and already feeling the heat.
Annabelle and Ailey’s daily fight count changes depending on the weather/moon phase/day of the week. We try VERY HARD to diffuse arguments, separate them when they’re cranky, and to never instigate a disagreement, but there are days when it’s near impossible. For Christmas, the girls received a few books from their Grandparents to teach them to show kindness towards one another. I want to share the three books to help your kids to stop fighting that we’ve been reading daily.
“Little Dinos Don’t Hit” by Michael Dahl
Ailey is the most physical out of the two sisters – pulling Annabelle’s hair when she gets mad or occasionally bonking her on the head. “Little Dinos Don’t Hit” is a short, but sweet board book that gets right to the point. It’s about a little dinosaur with LOTS of energy – like Ailey – that hits instead of helping others in a variety of situations. We have been reading this book every day since Christmas, reminding Ailey of the most important lesson: Little Dinos don’t hit, they hug! I can honestly say I’ve seen her attacking Annabelle less, hugging her more, and reporting to her Mommy and Daddy when she is mad instead of lashing out. She still yells a lot when she is angry… so we might need to pick up, “Little Dinos Don’t Yell” soon.
“Have You Filled a Bucket Today?” by Carol McCloud
Annabelle’s greatest downfall when it comes to getting along with her sister is not just a lack of patience, but more so her attitude towards younger children. Annabelle doesn’t understand Ailey is only two years old and sharing isn’t so easy when you’re a toddler. Annabelle says hurtful things to Ailey under her breath or sneakily takes her toys away if Ailey becomes distracted.
“Have You Filled a Bucket Today?” by Carol McCloud is an awesome book for teaching kids about how their actions can impact others. Annabelle is not only reading this in school, but we also talk about a bucket of kindness at home and how she can fill her little sister’s bucket up with happiness instead of dumping out her joy.
“Sometimes I’m Bombaloo” by Rachel Vail
I just ordered “Sometimes I’m Bombaloo” by Rachel Vail to read with the girls because it was one of my first grade students’ favorites. The book is about a little girl, Katie, who whenever loses her temper with her little brother she turns into Bombaloo! I love how the story address the frustrations big siblings can feel with their little siblings and really think Annabelle will be able to relate to Katie.
Haha my mom could have used these for my brother and I when we were kids! 🙂
xx, Danielle | http://www.pineappleandprosecco.com
Hillary Conheady says
I love this blog post! What a great idea! Need to save this for future reference.
xo, Hillary | hillheady.com
Aw so cute! I have three and my middle child fights with both siblings, it’s pretty insane! Books are a great way to calm them down and bring them together. This is a great post!
ashley hargrove says
Oh my gosh these books sound amazing! Even though I always wished I had a sibling to argue and fight with haha!
I’ve never heard of these books! I don’t have any kids, but these are great to keep in mind as gifts too.
Cool idea!! Thank you for sharing!
Ruthie Ridley says
Such a great set of books!!
THANK YOU for sharing these! I have an almost 3 year old and a 3 month old, both girls. So I’m in for it! ?
Laura Leigh says
Your little ones seriously couldn’t be cuter! Sending this post to my sister as she has a 2 year old gal and is pregnant with another one. So she will definitely be breaking up some fights in the future!
xo Laura Leigh
Azanique S. Rawl says
These are such helpful tips! I’m going to grab these books for my friend with 3 littles.
xo, Azanique | https://www.lotsofsass.com