After the wedding is over, post wedding blues are sure to set in. Don’t find yourself depressed and irritable because the fun is in the past. Here is how to handle post wedding blues.
I’ll never forget how depressed Brandon and I felt after coming back from our honeymoon. We knew that everything was officially over – all of the planning, the stressing, the excitement building up to the big day – gone. My family in CT felt the same way and we were missing each other hard as I sat in Georgia at my work desk typing away on this little blog formerly called Bear-y Excited Bride. Fortunately, Brandon and I were harboring a little secret that we were in the process of moving to Maryland for new jobs, so there was a thrill on the horizon. BUT for other bride and grooms, after the wedding and honeymoon, it feels like all the fun is over.
During the last couple of months when my sister seemed most stressed, my other sister and I warned her about the post-wedding blues. We said to enjoy planning her wedding because soon enough she will feel a little bit empty, and those feelings of blah can actually harm a new marriage. Here are some ways to recover from the post-wedding blues.
Live up the Newlywed Life
Even if you were living together before your nuptials, an official title of husband and wife really does change things. You’re now a husband and wife! Make a point to do more together – use gift cards you received for fun home projects or a new piece of furniture. Have spontaneous date nights, go on a bubbly picnic, or take an adventure somewhere new. Tell EVERYONE how you just got married and let them buy you a cocktail. You’re only going to be considered newlyweds for a little while, so enjoy it!
Focus on Romance
There is a reason you two said, “I do.” Don’t let all the electricity fizzle out once your wedding is over. Be romantic and spontaneous. Leave your spouse a love note on the bathroom mirror. Be open and talk about your feelings; hold hands, hug, and snuggle as much as possible.
Plan a PARTY
Sometimes all you might need is a little celebration to cheer you up, so host a “We Just Got Married” party. Invite all of your closest friends, turn up the music, put on your dancing shoes and cheers to your future (again!).
Don’t be Afraid of Your Feelings
If things do get rocky with you and your new spouse, remember that transitioning from dating to marriage is a HUGE deal. Suddenly you share everything from a bank account to a fridge to household chores and it might feel overwhelming. I’ve heard of couples seeking a counselor or joining a small group at their church for newlyweds. Whatever route you choose, make sure you are being completely honest with your spouse and remain open to help. Admitting there is tension or a problem does not equal failure!